Embracing Life’s Complexities and Finding True Happiness

Embracing Life's Complexities and Finding True Happiness by Avril Kid, EQ in Action, Durban Coaching
Written by: Avril Kidd
Category: Life Skills | Stress
Happiness is often misunderstood as a destination reached through wealth or accolades. Yet, the reality is that 90% of our happiness comes from within. So, what does happiness truly look like for you?

The human spirit is more powerful than any drug and that’s what needs to be nourished: with work, play, friendship, family. These are the things that matter

[ROBIN WILLIAMS]

I recently traveled to Tanzania to conduct workshops, celebrated a week filled with birthday festivities, and, sadly, mourned the loss of a valued client, Flavian Ngole. Flavian was a remarkable leader who embodied Emotional Intelligence in every aspect of his life. He was a true gentleman and an inspiration, taken from us too soon. My heartfelt thoughts go out to his family, friends, and colleagues at Interchick who are grieving his loss.

In times of grieving, it’s vital to be present for those who are suffering. Offer a listening ear, allow them to express their emotions, and respect their need for space if they’re not ready to talk. Be there for them, both in presence and action. As life returns to normal, remember that this is when they may need your support the most.

Recently, we were also shaken by the loss of One Direction’s Liam Payne, a beloved music talent. Despite his fame and fortune, he struggled with personal battles that many never saw. This tragedy reminds us that happiness isn’t about external achievements but about how we choose to live our lives.

Understanding True Happiness

Happiness is often misunderstood as a destination reached through wealth or accolades. Yet, the reality is that 90% of our happiness comes from within. So, what does happiness truly look like for you? Have you taken the time to discuss this with your loved ones? We often assume we know what makes us or others happy, but do we really?

Consider the Iceberg concept. What we see in others is just the tip of their lives; beneath lies much more. We must look beyond the surface and understand the deeper emotions and challenges others face.

Signs to watch for

Here are some signs that may indicate someone is struggling:

  • Excessive worrying or fears
  • Extreme emotional changes
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Withdrawal from social activities
  • Significant tiredness or sleep problems
  • Difficulty coping with stress
  • Substance abuse issues
  • Changes in eating habits
  • Struggling to relate to people
  • Excessive anger or violence

It’s essential to listen actively, without judgment, and with empathy. Listen more than you speak. Provide unconditional support, and when needed, and have those crucial conversations. Encourage professional help if you or someone you know exhibits these signs.

In conclusion …

Remember Robin Williams’ words: “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”

When facing physical illness, we seek professional help. Let’s ensure we do the same for mental health.

Take care of yourselves and each other.